Thursday, April 30, 2009

Courtship (1)

Good morning friends. Imspired by my favorite writer Bob Garon, all what he is telling to us were always in reality. So practical in life.

Courtship is supposed to be a time for investigation. It is a time when two people look into the possibility of marriage. It should be a time when both the guy and the girl are circling around and learning all about each other in order to decide whether or not to marry.

There are those who make the fatal mistake of deciding too soon that the courtship must end in marriage. They court as if they are already engaged. The possibility of ending the courtship is not an option. This does not mean that there will be a marriage. It just means that, for them, the decision is made: they will marry.

These people fail to understand that there are many traps when two persons get into courtship. There is always the risk of getting hurt emotionally and psychologically traumatized. The risk of being rejected after giving so much to the relationship is very real and can be utterly devastating. And for some, life changing.

All this should not surprise you. Just look at all the failed and mediocre marriages around you. If so many marriages don’t work out, should you be surprised if courtships are so fragile?
The problem with love is that you are only half the equation. You can influence your partner, but, in the end, you cannot control him/her. -The Manila Times
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