Practicing Self-Control (1 of 2)

Again and again I’ve seen that the only real freedom a person ever has comes from developing inner self-control. And how do you develop this? It’s obviously a lifetime project, but if you want to begin, here are some guidelines to follow.

Take a moral inventory: decide the areas in your life where you may need more self-control. Your job, for example. You might never steal merchandise, but do you steal time? Do you ever come in late, leave early, paid an expense account or change a private phone call to the company? What about your marriage? Are there areas in your life—or even in your thoughts—where you deceive your married partner? And your children, do you always tell them the truth?

Do you set up standards for them that you refuse to meet yourself?

Work from a spiritual base: The best base for spiritual growth is, of course, the Bible. What do the Ten Commandments say to you? Christ’s Sermon on the Mount? It’s vital that you know what you believe about God and how this belief relates to your life.

Concentrate on thought-control: Wrong action starts with a thought. Work at blocking those wrong thoughts before they become action. Not that you can totally prevent a tempting or destructive thought from entering your mind. But you can refuse to dwell on the thought and thus keep it from enlarging.

The Power of Changes

Ask yourself, “Why is change so important in our lives?” if you think about it, not every change is positive. Sometimes, we feel it’s better for the people and the situations we are in, to remain the way they are. However, without change, there are life experiences we might be missing out on. Beyond our self-exploration, we should also consider that the world cannot possibly exist without going through necessary changes.

Like if we talk about volcanic activity and how it affects the integrity of the ozone layer. Volcanic emissions changes the balance between the amount of radiation Earth receives from the Sun and the amount of energy Earth Reflects back to space. We also noted how this change can eventually lead to the destruction of the ozone layer. And while this change can be viewed as something that the world is better off without. We should also remember its geologic e=importance in building the Earth’s crust. Volcanic activity is always good for farmlands, as it enriches the soil with rare minerals.

Next, we got to see changes at the microscopic level, as we looked at how a unique “bug” is able to pull a Midas trick on gold ores. Know s the Midas bug, we saw how this particular species of bacteria plays a significant role in the formation of secondary gold grains. We also got to discover the possibilities of this kind of information, especially in the field of bioprocessing and gold prospecting.

Ten, we explored the skies, and discovered how far from friendly if could actually be. When the conditions turn sunny to icy, we learned how pilots and aircraft personnel deal with flight hazards such a s in-flight icing. Currently, there are a number of tools and techniques devised to handle this problem but, any changes or modifications to up the safety factor, and of course with the help of technology, will always be welcome in the aviation industry.

Finally, we wend deep, 400 meters below the sea floor to be exact. We witnessed a change in perspective, as we learned about other processes aside from photosynthesis that can drive the survival of organisms. Deep-sea radiation, radiolysis, and natural radioactivity were just some of the new concepts we learned in this article.

Changes are happening all the time—around us and within us. Life is more fulfilling if we lean to accept changes, rather than resist it.

Courtship (2)

You cannot force someone to love you even if you are crazy in love. And even if your partner is madly in love with you, there is no guarantee that it will last over the years. Love is a dynamic, living, breathing force that is susceptible to all kinds of changes. We have all seen love turned upside down when it is least expected. We have seen incredibly intense love cool off and become hard and insensitive.

Lovers need to know this and court accordingly. Courtship is a very uncertain time. Though two persons commit to go steady, their commitment is built on shaky ground even if they feel it is strong. This is because the commitment to go steady is made at a time when neither knows the other very well and therefore cannot predict the outcome of the courtship.

People who court should do so with caution. They need to keep in mind that the possibility of the relationship not working out is very real. They should put thoughts of marriage on the back burner until they get to know each other very well.

This will require a reasonable length of time. Quickie courtships that lead to the altar almost always end up in disaster. Courtship is the road to marriage and marriage is very serious business. It should be approached with the respect and caution it commands.-The Manila Times

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Courtship (1)

Good morning friends. Imspired by my favorite writer Bob Garon, all what he is telling to us were always in reality. So practical in life.

Courtship is supposed to be a time for investigation. It is a time when two people look into the possibility of marriage. It should be a time when both the guy and the girl are circling around and learning all about each other in order to decide whether or not to marry.

There are those who make the fatal mistake of deciding too soon that the courtship must end in marriage. They court as if they are already engaged. The possibility of ending the courtship is not an option. This does not mean that there will be a marriage. It just means that, for them, the decision is made: they will marry.

These people fail to understand that there are many traps when two persons get into courtship. There is always the risk of getting hurt emotionally and psychologically traumatized. The risk of being rejected after giving so much to the relationship is very real and can be utterly devastating. And for some, life changing.

All this should not surprise you. Just look at all the failed and mediocre marriages around you. If so many marriages don’t work out, should you be surprised if courtships are so fragile? The problem with love is that you are only half the equation. You can influence your partner, but, in the end, you cannot control him/her. -The Manila Times

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The Truth (2)

And there are times when you are going to get it if you don’t say anything at all. Like when there is a disaster in the making and they find out later that you stood by and simply let it happen.

Then there are those moments when you are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. I get into those situations all the time. Like when I counsel someone to separate because of an impossible situation and one of the partners insists on going on in spite of it all. He hates you with a fury because he is convinced you are breaking up his marriage. It doesn’t matter that he has mistresses galore and obviously doesn’t love his wife anymore. The truth isn’t the issue. His wishes are.

Or try telling an obsessed woman that the man she loves has no real interest in her anymore and that there is no future with him. She doesn’t want to hear it. Never mind if it’s an undeniable truth.
We often play fast and loose with the truth. We can go to great lengths to create our own truth. We mould it to suit our needs and desires. And sometimes we are so set in our ways that we simply don’t want to hear it. And we are ready to jump on anyone who insists that we listen. This is why messengers who carry the truth get shot so often. -Bob Garon