Showing posts with label Commitment. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Commitment. Show all posts

Saturday, March 5, 2011

5 Things to Remember About Winning People

The toughest thing about fresh insight, new strategies and personal passion to see it through is waiting for others to catch the wave! Here are five things to help you stay the course as you try to champion a dream, win people over and lead changes of any kind.

■ It’s a trip, not a destination.

If we’re focused on the outcome, we’ll constantly feel the frustration instead of the win. But, if we focus on the people over the project (or the process over the event) relationships will gradually strengthen and each little step will feel like a win on the way to our ultimate goal. Remember, it’s less about technique than it is attitude.

■ It’s not “all or nothing.”

We can’t change everyone and everything at once. There’s going to be several steps forward and a couple steps back along the way. Don’t let that discourage you if it’s more of an exception rather than a rule. It’s like a golf game. You’re going to have some good holes and some bad ones. When you have a bad hole, move on to the next one. It’s not game over.

■ Focus on a few rather than many.

Rarely, if ever, is a one-size-fits-all roll-out effective. We are going to have to spend more time with some leaders over others. And, what works to get buy-in from one person won’t work with the next. It takes time to navigate through the personalities to discover what motivates and builds trust for each person. Invest in constant and ongoing conversations with your boss all along the way. Not to get things done, but to keep processing the wins, the struggles and the cost of standing still. And, then pick one or two leaders to invest in to build a trust and create some key, visible wins. It will attract others to the cause and you’ll gradually gain momentum and speed.

■ It takes time.

God isn’t just using this change to help improve others, he’s using others to help change us. Whatever time you think it’s going to take to roll something out, multiply that by at least 3. It’s not linear but multi-dimensional. There is more at play than we can see. With faith, persistence and a commitment to self-awareness the stars will start to come into alignment down the road. It may take us about 3 years to start to see a tipping point for some initiatives we’ve led in the past-not 3 months.

■ You’re never done.

While you will build more advocates in your camp among the way, it will never be 100% consensus. You will need to keep refining your vision casting, coaching and redirecting skills. There will always be new team members or difficult personalities unwilling or unable to change. What you can look forward, though is the hard part being 20% of your job instead of 80%. – St. Paul United Methodist Church “The Weekly Beacon”

Friday, May 1, 2009

Courtship (2)

You cannot force someone to love you even if you are crazy in love. And even if your partner is madly in love with you, there is no guarantee that it will last over the years. Love is a dynamic, living, breathing force that is susceptible to all kinds of changes. We have all seen love turned upside down when it is least expected. We have seen incredibly intense love cool off and become hard and insensitive.

Lovers need to know this and court accordingly. Courtship is a very uncertain time. Though two persons commit to go steady, their commitment is built on shaky ground even if they feel it is strong. This is because the commitment to go steady is made at a time when neither knows the other very well and therefore cannot predict the outcome of the courtship.

People who court should do so with caution. They need to keep in mind that the possibility of the relationship not working out is very real. They should put thoughts of marriage on the back burner until they get to know each other very well.

This will require a reasonable length of time. Quickie courtships that lead to the altar almost always end up in disaster. Courtship is the road to marriage and marriage is very serious business. It should be approached with the respect and caution it commands.-
The Manila Times

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