Good morning everyone. I just remember what my friend told me before about her mother. She told me how her mother nagged her father. She saw how they fought when her mother talked a lot. Sometime, when you nag a person, it helped. The person who was nagged realized the mistakes. But most of the time nagging is just that start of the fight.
Couples whose love has withstood the test of time and emerged happier and more meaningful than ever have a way of dealing with each other’s bad habits. They don’t nag because they have seen the futility of it all.
Naggers usually have right on their side. It’s difficult to argue with them, so they usually win the battle. Sadly, however, they rarely win the war. This is because the one nagged doesn’t listen and tunes out. This is why the nagger has to keep nagging endlessly. Her (or his) yakking is as ineffectual as water off a duck’s back.
Solid couples understand that nagging gets nothing done, but only exacerbates matters. They find other ways to bring about change. They cajole, compromise and gently prod. And often, unless the situation is serious, they simply keep silent and learn to live with it. After all, they know and accept that their love is imperfect and that this is one of those imperfections that comes with the whole package.
Look at couples whose marriages are not going well. Though the nagging is clearly ineffective and damaging to the relationship, they go on doing it. They are like the kamikaze pilot intent on destroying even if it means blowing oneself up.
Which brings me to the next strength that is somewhat similar. Strong couples agree to disagree. The reason why they were attracted to each other in the first place is because they are different.
Couples whose love has withstood the test of time and emerged happier and more meaningful than ever have a way of dealing with each other’s bad habits. They don’t nag because they have seen the futility of it all.
Naggers usually have right on their side. It’s difficult to argue with them, so they usually win the battle. Sadly, however, they rarely win the war. This is because the one nagged doesn’t listen and tunes out. This is why the nagger has to keep nagging endlessly. Her (or his) yakking is as ineffectual as water off a duck’s back.
Solid couples understand that nagging gets nothing done, but only exacerbates matters. They find other ways to bring about change. They cajole, compromise and gently prod. And often, unless the situation is serious, they simply keep silent and learn to live with it. After all, they know and accept that their love is imperfect and that this is one of those imperfections that comes with the whole package.
Look at couples whose marriages are not going well. Though the nagging is clearly ineffective and damaging to the relationship, they go on doing it. They are like the kamikaze pilot intent on destroying even if it means blowing oneself up.
Which brings me to the next strength that is somewhat similar. Strong couples agree to disagree. The reason why they were attracted to each other in the first place is because they are different.
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