Rules for handling anger (4)

Let each one of you speak truth... - Ephesians 4:25 NKJV Rule 4: Keep it solution-focused. Someone has said that fellowship is like two fellows in a ship: one can't sink the other without sinking himself. By seeking to gain the upper hand you both lose. By seeking to save and strengthen the relationship you both win. So when you speak, be sure it's '... helpful for building others up according to their needs... ' (Ephesians 4:29 NIV). Try to understand what the other person needs. Don't bring up previously confessed offenses; don't drag in other people; don't use wisecracks about people's weight, height, colour, IQ, physical, mental and emotional limitations; don't bring up unrelated things that cloud the issue and keep you from finding a solution. And don't raise the volume in order to intimidate and manipulate. God made you with a capacity for anger because when handled the right way it's the fuel that brings needed change and the medicine that heals. So: a) Seek a solution, not a 'victory.' Name-calling and 'diagnosing' others only makes things worse. Your focus should not be on what they did, but on what you can do together to resolve it b) admit your own flaws and ask for forgiveness. Since it takes two to tango, acknowledging your own imperfections makes it easier for someone else to acknowledge theirs c) every time you take a 'swing' at someone, offer them a positive 'stroke.' '... If there be any virtue... think on these things' (Philippians 4:8). For each of the difficulties you address, give a compliment. 'I'm sure this wasn't easy for you to hear. Thanks for listening to me so graciously.' Being solution-focused gives people something positive to live up to, not down to! SoulFood Bible Readings: 2 Kings 16:1-18:16, Luke 1:39-56, Ps 139:7-12, Pr 13:
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Rules For Handling Anger (3)

Let each one of you speak truth... - Ephesians 4:25 NKJV

Rule 3: Keep it current. Storing anger in your hard drive only hurts you. When you download old resentments you start to rehearse them and grow bitter. 'The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks' (Luke 6:45 NIV).

When you're angry deal with it quickly. Don't passively allow time to decide your options, or sit around hoping the other person will see the light and apologise. 'If your brother sins against you, go [to] him... ' (Matthew 18:15 NIV). Try to resolve it and restore the relationship. When you repress it you add one more skeleton to your closet. Sooner or later, doctors say, it'll be at your stomach lining, attack your immune system, predispose you to heart problems, cancers and other physical, social and emotional disorders. Meantime, it'll preoccupy you, dissipate your energy, cripple your creativity, hinder your fellowship with God, your friends and fellow believers; not to mention that it denies the offender the opportunity to clear their conscience, repent and get right with God and you. Stop dragging up the past, trying to blackmail the guilty by hauling skeletons out of closets at 'auspicious' moments, plotting revenge, and passing down resentments for the next generation to carry. Ask God for the humility and courage to deal with today's problems - today. When your head hits the pillow tonight, know that your issues are current, up to date with God and everyone else, and sleep well!

SoulFood Bible Readings: 2 Kings 13-15, Luke 1:26-38, Ps 139:1-6, Pr 13:21-23

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Rules For Handling Anger (2)

Let each one of you speak truth... - Ephesians 4:25 NKJV

Rule 2: Keep it non-lethal. Paul writes: 'In your anger do not sin... ' (Ephesians 4:26 NIV). What do Paul's words mean? Don't let your anger escalate to the point of doing damage. Don't use your words as a weapon or a control mechanism. It's okay to express your emotions in a healthy way, but keep them in check. Your goal must be to resolve the problem and strengthen the relationship, not 'sound off' and wound the other person. Is this easy to do? No. You'll need a good strong dose of grace to do it. Words spoken in jest, sarcasm, self-righteousness or 'righteous indignation' wound people, sometimes permanently. '... Perverseness [of the tongue] breaks the spirit.' (Proverbs 15:4 NKJV). '... A crushed spirit who can bear?' (Proverbs 18:14 NIV). 'The tongue can bring death... ' (Proverbs 18:21 NLT). Angry words, once unleashed, can: '... Go down into a man's inmost parts' (Proverbs 26:22 NIV). Your words can live in the heart and memory of a person and go all the way to the grave with them. We say, 'Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me,' but it's not true. A person can die of a crushed spirit, and the one who spoke the words can live to regret the damage they inflicted and never get a chance to undo it. On the other hand, anger properly handled never needs to be repented of. So learn to differentiate between the anger you feel and the words you speak. Anger carefully thought through, can reveal important information about needed changes. Focus on that, and ask God to show you what needs changing in the other person; and you!

SoulFood Bible Readings: 2 Kings 10-12, Luke 1:11-25, Ps 73:17-28, Pr 13:20

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Rules For Handling Anger (1)

Good morning friends. The good friend of mine just in the process of healing the wound in her heart. She is doing everything just to mend her broken heart. I think she subscribed a inspirational words and she share me all the good words she received. One of it is about the anger. How you can handle it. It’s inspiring and I also want to share it to you all.

Let each one of you speak truth... - Ephesians 4:25 NKJV

Two forceful personalities in a relationship are like two rivers flowing into one; there's going to be a strong current. Anger can be instant like a flash of lightning, or prolonged like the rumble of thunder. Sometimes we clash painfully, other times we distance and silently abandon the relationship. But anger handled the right way doesn't have to destroy. Here are God's rules for handling your anger.Rule 1: Keep it honest. 'Stop telling lies. Let us tell... the truth... don't sin by letting anger control you... ' (Ephesians 4:25-26 NLT). When you're angry don't deny it. Anger can be constructive. We're right to get angry when people are mistreated and wrongs are not made right. Saying, 'I've been feeling angry and because I value our relationship I'd like to talk about it,' is honest, non-threatening and invites resolution. Observe: a) ignoring, stifling, suppressing, or pretending you're not angry is basically dishonest b) another form of lying when you're angry is exaggeration. 'You never listen to what I say.' 'You always ignore my wishes.' 'Nobody does anything around here except me.' Such generalizations are untrue and serve only to aggravate and polarise, guaranteeing the real problem gets obscured and goes unsolved c) another way to lie when you're angry is blaming. 'If you'd arrive on time I wouldn't have to nag you,' or 'If you'd quit nagging so much, maybe I'd start being on time.' Blaming is a way of evading your own responsibility while pointing the finger at others. It angers others, perpetuates your own anger and never produces the result you want. God's way is, 'Let each one of you speak truth,' and it works when you do it in love.

SoulFood Bible Readings: 2 Kings 7-9, Luke 1:1-10, Ps 73:1-16, Pr 13:17-19 If you've been encouraged by The Word for Today, then your friends will be too.

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Warning over Michael Jackson e-mail virus

Good morning everyone. We all know that Michael Jackson was no longer with us. He left us and he is now with our God. We are all aware that many were the avid fan of the King of Pop. Many gathered pictures and collect some of his videos for their collections. I’m sure that Michael saw everything what his fans doing with the memory of him. But we should be all very careful because there is this advice that there is a warning over Michael Jackson e-mail virus.

Computer security firm Sophos issued a warning about an Internet virus transmitted from a mass e-mail claiming to contain secret songs and photos of Michael Jackson.

The e-mail comes with the subject “Remembering Michael Jackson” and is sent from “sarah@michaeljackson.com,” Sophos said in a statement sent by its Asia office in Singapore.

It tells recipients that an attached file titled “Michael songs and pictures.zip” contains secret songs and photos of the pop music icon, who died of a heart attack in the United States on June 25.
Sophos warned computer users not to open the attachment.

“By opening the attachment, computer users are exposed to infection. Once infected, a computer will begin automatically spreading the worm onto other Internet users,” Sophos said.

“Besides spreading via e-mail, Sophos experts note that the malware is also capable of spreading as an Autorun component on USB memory sticks.”

Graham Cluley, a senior technology consultant at Sophos, said many computer users are likely to be tempted to open the attachment because of the feverish interest in the King of Pop’s sudden death.

“But sensible computer users should by now be well aware that cybercriminals will be quick to exploit news events to spread malware and spam,” he said. “Anyone who receives this email should delete it immediately to save themselves the embarrassment of infecting their e-mail contacts.” –The Manila Times